Writer's Block: Deal or No Deal - Dan the Serene
Writer's Block: Deal or No Deal|
What's on your list of dealbreakers when it comes to romantic relationships?
I don't normally do these, but this one is easy because I've given it considerable thought already.
Any potential partner must accept the following--no negotiation:
Tags: dealbreakers, relationships, writer's block
Guns, and a carnivorous diet.
When I lived in Moscow, my then girlfriend would eat some fish but no red meat. She didn't even want it cooked in the apartment. So, a couple times a month I would go to the Starlight Diner and get in touch with my inner carnivore via a large cheeseburger.
I'd be fine with a non-carnivore, so long as she didn't try to impose her heathen ways on me.
This seems reasonable in regards to ANY deviant behavior, like vegetarianism, organized religion, etc.
You know, I'm not sure I'd extend it to organized* religion--on a case-by-case basis*, of course--as I'd have a hard time having a serious relationship with someone who seriously believes in fantasy overlords in the sky.
* Toeing the party line, as it were, and not thinking for yourself.
That sounds like you, from what little I know.
|Date:||March 6th, 2009 12:59 am (UTC)|| |
What does "accept" mean?
Because I learned (for myself) that "tolerate" is not good enough for some things.
My partner must not merely tolerate me owning guns; oh, no. My partner must own guns, too! Before I even meet him!
Motorcycles, well, it's ok if he only tolerates me being a motorcyclist as long as it's sincere. It's ok if he doesn't partake.
Dog-tolerance is simply not on. Dog lovers only.
He must also not be a socialist. Before I even meet him.
They are in descending order
Accept guns, learn basics of handling, not mind that I carry most of the time.
Riders preferred but not necessary if they can accept that they will miss out on a certain amount of my time.
Dogs are on my list, but in the other column. I would never make anyone choose between me and their dog, but I also cannot safely be within 5 feet of one indoors. Hell, a dog owner's hair covered coat can bring on an asthma attack even if the dog is miles away.
I’d not given much thought to guns or motorcycles.
My top deal breaker is cocaine use which is still surprisingly common in some of my circles.
Edited at 2009-03-06 04:37 pm (UTC)
I have no direct experience with coke, but the stories I hear don't sound like it makes for stable relationships. And of course, there are the potential legal ramifications.
Yes, yes there are. I may someday date someone who has been in jail, but I'm not waiting for anyone who is going to jail.